It's a much more common phenomenon than most lay people realize. My guess (based on over 30 years of first-hand-observation) is that at least half the people who are incested physically or emotionally by a parent were used to replace the spouse who no longer "loves" the perpetrator. (I have seen dozens of examples.)
Moreover, a significant percentage of such children were so effectively "rescued," seduced, gaslighted and/or emotionally blackmailed by the needy, "love-starved" parent that they become sympathetic with that perpetrator and something like "daddy's willing (or at least tolerant) lover" to "rescue" that parent on their Karpman Drama Triangle.
And caught a nasty case of shame, guilt, worry, remorse, regret and self-loathing morbid reflection -- as well as later transference of the earlier conditioning, in-doctrine-ation, instruction, socialization, habituation and normalization with the original perpetrator onto other "lovers" in the future.
This post will be used in the future to help others who are stuck in the awful cognitive dissonance and self-hating, shame-soaked, emotional war zone about that.
Likewise here's a "starter kit" of well-known ways to get OUT of that shame-flooded, emotional deepwell:
Understanding and finding The Road Out of Ultra-Codependent, Hyper-Stimulation-Seeking, Self-Medicating, Sex & Romance Addiction in not-moses's relies to the OP on that thread
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